Happiness is To Be Made, Not To Be Looking For

If we talk about happiness, assuredly, we will remember the word ‘love’. Because happiness is identical with the existence of love. We have to know ourselves, what things can make us happy. Because we have to make our own happiness instead of looking for it.

Happiness creator is within our own heart. It’s really a waste for you to go to the end of the world, looking for happiness. You will not find happiness anywhere, except, You, yourself, make yourself happy everywhere anywhere.

The most important factor for keeping us healthy, prosper, and happy, is to love and to be loved.Just behave realistically and plan some miracles for yourself and feel that the happiness comes and happens to us, because love doesn’t need perfect body, mind, and soul..

Love, just like any other things in life, is a choice.
Every moment, when you are meeting somebody, or in every thought about ourselves, we, somehow, have a choice; whether we want to judge or try to understand about what we are facing, undergoing, and what we will be planning for.

Love Energy
Love is energy. Just feel the energy flowing into parts of our body, then we will feel a kind of warmness, peacefulness, and happiness, entering our body and heart.
And that love energy is not necessarily always having to be found from outside. Instead, the love which is generated from ourselves is the most potent or efficacious.
By loving and being honest to ourselves about the meaning of love, then we will not waste the love that already exist and grow within ourselves. That is the beginning for the happiness manufacturer to start producing within our heart.
It often happens to many couple who waste the love feeling, which previously has been a beginning of their living together decision. we are often remiss in keeping the love.
The deep love is manifested in the form of love that we can associate to our body’s muscles, the more we practice and maintain it, the more it will be stronger and more beneficial in smoothing the ‘movement’ of our life.
When the love begins to sallow and slowly but sure, the love towards each partner, begins to disappear, then we will just realize that during this time, we don’t appreciate the existence of love from our partner.
When we have it all, we waste it instead! But, when we begin to feel threatened of losing it, we try to get the avowal that he/she must stay to be ours desperately!
Unfortunately, in the effort of preserving or trying to get the partner’s love back, most of the time, it happens that we can not get it back anymore. We already step wrongly, act wrongly, and also readapt the love to relationship’s harmony wrongly.
Then, it happens that the love is just getting far to be gotten back, getting far to be reached, because we make the relationship becomes more flaming by the argumentation in which we want to win our own self, by flaming anger, and then we make the love just becomes a legend that has never exist in relationship as a partner or couple. Love is perish by the flaming anger and jealousy.

Easy to Perish
Why the love that brings happiness to a couple becomes so easy to perish? That kind of love which is sallow quickly and perish eventually, by time, is the love that begun by the word ‘Because’ or the word ‘if’
Love can be eternal and full of tolerance if it’s already merged and transform into love which is begun by the word “although” or “eventhough”.
We can take example of the love begun by the word “because” as “Because you are beautiful, that’s why I love u!, ” then, “Because you are a director, that’s why I love u!”
Meanwhile, the love begun by the word “if” is “If you love me, then you should fulfill all my needs!”
Then, you can compare them by the sentence that is begun by the word “although”
“Although we are living in lack of many things, but i still love you!”
Most of the couple equip themselves to live together by the love begun by the word “because” and “if”, it’s not a surprise, that then, most of the complain that we hear in the room of consultancy is that “living in the same roof, but feeling strange” and “sleeping on the same bed, but not interested into each other anymore!”
The “because” love and the “if” love is easy to sallow and dull. It is different from the “although” love which is full of tolerance, understanding, and even full of forgive above whatever happens to our couple.We can afford to say, “Although you hurt me, but I still love you.” The choice is at our hand, if we want to be happy, then make an effort and try to make the happiness generated from our heart.
Because happiness is a contagious energy. We can not make the people around us happy, if we, ourselves, are not happy.

How do we think that we want to make the people around us smile, if we, ourselves, can not smile for the reason that our heart if full of bad energy which is generated from anger, hatred, irk, and the feeling of having been paltered with.